I am not really sure why everything finally fell into place or perhaps why I finally felt safe enough to admit what I have always known but suddenly in a week of some big stuff happening in the sky, I sat at my desk and filled in an ADHD pre-assessment questionnaire.
This is beautifully written and echo’s so many women’s stories I am hearing around me - so many enabling neurodivergent partners and children flourish, often in the face of a spouse’s denial that anything is wrong. Ultimately the time comes when the caring and enabling. has to stop, and your own flourishing must take centre stage. I wish you very very best on your journey and look forward to reading more.
Emily, what a turning point! 🦋 I'm sure I'm ADHD (ADD) not sure about the Au. It's so good to have clarity and understanding. I've been on the waiting list for three years though. Beautiful writing as always. ☺️
Thanks Kate! Yes, it feels so good even to have a self recognition.
I personally think that in a few years we will talk of neurodiversity as one diagnosis with different profiles. I see so, so much overlap with my kids and others…and myself. But let’s see! xx
I think there are many people here on Substack and who are self employed who are neurodivergent, simply because the world of ‘ordinary’ work or employment is not built for them, so we end up leaving and have to make our own work!
Beautiful writing. I 'discovered' my own neurodivergence after reading "The Electricity of Every Living Thing" by Katherine May. Her experiences were so similar to my own that I followed the links to the official tests she took and like you discovered there was no maybe or doubt about the result - I was neuro-divergent. It had only taken 57 years to reach that place, but in the time that followed, so much of my previous life and experiences fell into place and made complete sense. I have no intention of seeking a formal diagnosis though, as I don't think it will change who I am but knowing just gives me an understanding of myself that is so completely freeing and liberating and helps me move forward more confidently. I look forward to reading more about your discoveries as you share them - they can only be a good thing to give grace to yourself.
Ah I love this for you. I have that book ready to read again. I started it and like a few others I have on my bookshelf, it felt at the time too much for me to step into. I needed to hold so much for my children, that I just couldn’t make sense of myself until I had some space. That combined with a whole lot of shame that I have been holding around some stuff (definitely releasing that in some writing soon!!) meant it was just too much for me. So interesting though because now I feel so free to be myself that I am not sure why I was so afraid to look! The mind fascinates me xx
This is beautifully written and echo’s so many women’s stories I am hearing around me - so many enabling neurodivergent partners and children flourish, often in the face of a spouse’s denial that anything is wrong. Ultimately the time comes when the caring and enabling. has to stop, and your own flourishing must take centre stage. I wish you very very best on your journey and look forward to reading more.
Thank you so much for your words. They mean so much xx
Emily, what a turning point! 🦋 I'm sure I'm ADHD (ADD) not sure about the Au. It's so good to have clarity and understanding. I've been on the waiting list for three years though. Beautiful writing as always. ☺️
Thanks Kate! Yes, it feels so good even to have a self recognition.
I personally think that in a few years we will talk of neurodiversity as one diagnosis with different profiles. I see so, so much overlap with my kids and others…and myself. But let’s see! xx
I think there are many people here on Substack and who are self employed who are neurodivergent, simply because the world of ‘ordinary’ work or employment is not built for them, so we end up leaving and have to make our own work!
Absolutely agree x
You are amazing and I’m so proud of you! Can’t wait to talk to you more about this 🩷
Ah thank you lovely! I have a whole lot to share with you soon xx
Welcome to the club 😀🫂
Thank you! 🤩 x
Beautiful writing. I 'discovered' my own neurodivergence after reading "The Electricity of Every Living Thing" by Katherine May. Her experiences were so similar to my own that I followed the links to the official tests she took and like you discovered there was no maybe or doubt about the result - I was neuro-divergent. It had only taken 57 years to reach that place, but in the time that followed, so much of my previous life and experiences fell into place and made complete sense. I have no intention of seeking a formal diagnosis though, as I don't think it will change who I am but knowing just gives me an understanding of myself that is so completely freeing and liberating and helps me move forward more confidently. I look forward to reading more about your discoveries as you share them - they can only be a good thing to give grace to yourself.
Ah I love this for you. I have that book ready to read again. I started it and like a few others I have on my bookshelf, it felt at the time too much for me to step into. I needed to hold so much for my children, that I just couldn’t make sense of myself until I had some space. That combined with a whole lot of shame that I have been holding around some stuff (definitely releasing that in some writing soon!!) meant it was just too much for me. So interesting though because now I feel so free to be myself that I am not sure why I was so afraid to look! The mind fascinates me xx
It was Katherine May’s book that opened my eyes as well!
I’m definitely getting it back off the bookshelf! xx
Congratulations, Emily, here’s to knowing and being the full expression of you! x
Thank you lovely one! I had the most beautiful walk with a neurospicy friend today and to be fully, completely present was such a joy! xx