Unravelling my own neurodivergence

I am not really sure why everything finally fell into place or perhaps why I finally felt safe enough to admit what I have always known but suddenly in a week of some big stuff happening in the sky, I sat at my desk and filled in an ADHD pre-assessment questionnaire. This isn’t the first time I’ve done this but the difference this time was that I was 100% honest with myself.

(Image taken by Aimee Laoise)

I sat and looked at the result. There was no borderline result or ‘possibly’ about it. Oh…. And then a million Ahs followed as I traced back through my life and made sense of so many things.

Everything suddenly made sense. Too many things to talk about in this post but in the notes on my phone I have a rapidly building list of things I want to share when I am ready.

I have cried a lot over the past few days. Not because I don’t want this to be who I am. But because this is who I am and I have been on my own with it in my very busy head for 48 years!

I actually love that I’ve waited until now to work all this out for myself. I’ve been taking care of other people for a long time….all of them neurodivergent…and now it’s time to also take care of me. I’ve given my inner child so much time this year so far and she has definitely led the way on this.

Over the past few years I’ve done so much inner work, so that now I treat myself with so much grace, so much love and so much kindness. I think that this is why I could finally admit to myself all the things I find difficult and embrace all the good stuff that comes with this…there is a whole lot of that for sure.

I made myself a promise at the beginning of 2025 that I would go really deep on my healing journey, so that I could be all here. Be fully me for my work, my relationships (including I hope a future romantic relationship when the time is right!) and above all fully me for me.

I feel I am AuDHD, but for now I’m going to get myself an ADHD assessment. I have no doubts that I am but always good to add another piece of paper to our family neurodivergence folder!

I cannot wait to share more of my story with you soon. As I wrote in a Substack Note earlier this week…

Slowly uncovering my own neurodivergence, having buried it so deeply from myself in order to try and navigate life and motherhood (4 neurodivergent kids) and a 20 year relationship with a man who needed a whole lot of support with his own neurodivergence.

It feels so liberating and the most beautiful act of self-love to be on this journey of unravelling.

I feel very much like a butterfly emerging from her cocoon. My wings are still a little bit wrapped up and I am a bit wobbly but I am so ready to fly, to be all here and to weave my magical brain wiring with love, joy and freedom into my work, my relationships…my everything!

More coming soon because writing and sharing is my absolute favourite way to process life.
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